Like here's a thought, and it's just a suggestion: If you are a part of the belly dance community in some way - dancer, musician, dj, planner - like when you go to another performer's show can you not turn your head like OMG! it should be you and not that other person on stage. One of my theater friends has a great way of putting this : On this show it's not your turn on stage. But support this other show, and that way they'll support your show, and we avoid looking like 10th graders. Just an idea.